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hi.
what your reaction will be if people purporsely bullying you or take advantage on you cause they know you are blind, and on their opinion, you can't fight over for it? or maybe, they realize that you are an extremely patient person, and you won't be anoy or angry even though they do such and such to you?
what will you do in such situation, will you sit down and tell him or her what you feel, or just attacking him or her indirectly by not talking to them, or just ignore the problem and letting them to redo and redo it again?
oh i know what you mean! i went to a mainstream school which was a great experience but bloody tough at times! kids used to throw stuff at me and hit me then run away and laugh cos they knew that i would never know who it was. i remember thinking many times, i am going to go for them any minute now, then thinking, no; i can't. i'm more vulnerable than they are and they could do something dangerous where i could get seriously hurt. so there were a few times i fought back like the time i dragged a girl around the coridor and kept hitting her with my shoes, but as an adult now, i would say that the best thing to do would be to explain to the person doing these horrid things to you that they are behaving in an unacceptable way. explain to them that you are vulnerable, and that you can't always fight back and why. then if it still continues, then stand up and bravely anounce it in front of their friends "this person is very brave as they are picking on someone who is more vulnerable than they are and too cowardly to bully someone who would turn round and fight back!" then one hopes that this will embarrass them and that they may stop. best of luck anyway!
Luckily I don't get such treatment as an adult, but I did get some in mainstream school and at the school for the blind. I don't know what the answer is, but I'll tel you one thing. These folks are not going to listen to an adult lecture from you because they don't seem to be adults in the mental sense and they just don't give a damn about your feelings. All they care about is their own amusement and how they can get away with it. Yes, it is a very cowardly act to pick on a blind person and perhaps public humiliation of a sort is possible providing you know who's doing the deeds and as long as that person will not take revenge on you for humiliating them. Again, not sure waht hte answer is to such behavior, but just throwing out a few theories.
i'm not having issues with any of my classmates/unimates.
what really get on my nervs is one of my flatmate. he is just kind of person, well, over talkertive but the thing he talk is mostly without any point, its useless in my opinion.
after he knows me and my another flatmate is such a gentle person and we try our extreme patient with him, he started to be worse from before. from a talkertive person to a sound polution maker.
yesterday, the worse thing happen. before this, i relaly try my very best to get aware of him, or just tke him as a sound polution. but yesterday, he came in to my phone and took my mobile away without letting me know at the first place. when we confront him, he told everyone that he did notice me, and i said okay.
i really don't know what can i do with him anymore. as i think my patient has come to the very limit, and i don't simply wish to have any conflict with him cause no matter how, he's still my flatmate.
Who's to say you cant fight back? I took on a bully at school who'd made my life hell for 6 months. I certainly wouldn't ignore it, I'd probably tell him some false tragic story, concerning my condition, and hopefully make him feel extremly uncomfortable.
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Tell him you won't tollerate it, as politely as you can. That's what I suggest.